What Does a High-Control Environment Look or Feel Like? From Churches to Gyms to Relationships, They Come in Many Shapes and Sizes
Sometimes a high-control environment looks like a church. Sometimes it's a gym, a grad program, or a relationship you can't quite explain to anyone else. This guide walks through what these environments can look and feel like, so you can trust what you've been noticing all along.
When Ambition Feels Like Self-Betrayal: High Achievers Who Grew Up in High Control Environments
For many high achievers, ambition was never just ambition, it was a survival strategy learned inside systems that made achievement the price of safety or belonging. This post explores what happens when that drive is examined through a somatic, narrative, and decolonial lens, and what healing can look like on the other side.
Leaving the Jehovah's Witnesses: What Happens to Your Nervous System After You Go
I was fifteen, sitting at the park with friends, when I understood, all at once, that my queerness would eventually cost me everyone at that park and more. What I didn't have words for then is what I've spent years understanding: this is exactly what happens to the nervous system when it encounters a threat too large to respond to openly. And it holds that weight for a very long time.