Affirming Therapy for Kink, Polyamory & Non-Monogamy
A Space That Already Understands Your Life
You’re exhausted from having to explain or defend your relationships before you can even get to why you’re hurting.
You may be here because you're tired of therapy spaces where you spend half the session educating your therapist — or worse, where you leave feeling subtly judged, pathologized, or like you need to defend the validity of your relationships and desires.
You may be in a polyamorous, open, or ethically non-monogamous (ENM) relationship, or exploring what that might look like for you.
You may be part of kink or BDSM communities, or navigating desires you haven't yet had space to fully understand or express.
You may identify as relationship anarchist, solo poly, or simply someone who knows that traditional relationship structures have never quite fit.
Whatever brings you here, you don't need to justify it.
This is a space that begins from a place of full acceptance of relationship diversity, consensual non-monogamy, and kink-affirming care.
You May Have Adapted By…
Compartmentalizing your relationship life to avoid judgment or misunderstanding
Editing yourself in therapy, at work, or with family to seem more "acceptable"
Compartmentalizing your relationships or scenes and feeling scattered or unreal when you switch contexts.
Pushing through overwhelm and saying yes when your body is screaming for rest or alone time.
Avoiding vulnerability or honest communication out of fear of rocking already complex dynamics
Questioning whether your needs, jealousies, or desires make you "bad" at non-monogamy
Internalizing shame from a culture that treats monogamy as the only valid path
These adaptations made sense. They kept you safe in spaces that weren't built for you. But over time, they can deepen disconnection: from your partners, your desires, and yourself.
You May Be Here Because…
You're navigating jealousy, insecurity, or compersion in one or more relationships and want real support — not judgment
You're newer to ENM or polyamory and feeling overwhelmed by the complexity, demands, or your own unexpected reactions
You're experiencing relationship transitions: opening up a previously monogamous relationship, closing a relationship structure, or renegotiating agreements
You're struggling with scheduling, emotional labor, or burnout that comes with maintaining multiple relationships
You're working through shame or internalized stigma around your desires, kinks, or relationship structures, including messages absorbed from religion, family, or mainstream culture
You're navigating hierarchy dynamics, nesting partnerships, metamour relationships, or co-parenting across multiple partners
You want space to explore your desires, boundaries, and identity without being told what they should look like
What Therapy Can Offer
I offer sex-positive, kink-affirming, and non-judgmental therapy for adults in polyamorous, ENM, open, and kink or BDSM-informed relationships, as well as for those exploring what these structures might mean for them.
Building Shame-Resilient Relationships
This is a space where your relationship structure is not the problem to be solved. We work with the actual challenges: communication, trust, boundaries, emotional regulation, attachment patterns, and the very real complexity of loving and being loved across multiple connections.
Supporting Nervous Systems in Complex Constellations
Using a somatic, trauma-informed approach, we pay attention not just to the stories you tell about your relationships, but to what your nervous system carries — the activation, the shutdown, the fear of abandonment or engulfment that can surface even in the most intentional relationships.
Clarify your boundaries, non-negotiables, and desires without collapsing into fawn or fight responses.
Develop language to talk about jealousy, compersion, and consent that actually fits your relationships, not a one-size-fits-all script.
Space for Solo Work, Too
This work is also available for solo individuals navigating their own desires, identity, or relationship patterns, you don't need to be in a relationship to benefit.
We’ll pay attention to what your body is telling you, pacing sessions so your nervous system can integrate rather than just analyze.
A Therapist Who Gets It
As a queer, nonbinary, neurodivergent, Indigenous Latinx therapist, I understand how culture, spirituality, and lineage can intersect with kink, polyamory, and ENM.
I approach kink, polyamory, and ethical non-monogamy from a place of genuine fluency — not just clinical neutrality. I understand the community contexts, the language, the agreements, and the real emotional terrain that comes with living outside conventional relationship norms.
I also understand how intersecting identities can add layers of complexity to how you experience intimacy, desire, and belonging. This is a space where all of that is held with care.
Online therapy for kink, polyamory, and ethical non-monogamy available across California, including Los Angeles.
Click on the image above to read the article Debunking Myths About Neurodivergence and Sensitivity in Polyamory, Kink, and ENM
FAQs
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I currently only offer secure virtual sessions to clients located in California via video or phone. This allows you to connect from home, your studio, or wherever you feel most comfortable.
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My current session rate is $250.
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Therapy is different for everyone. Some people come in for a few months to work through something specific, while others stay longer for more profound healing and ongoing support. Together, we’ll check in about your goals and pace as we go. You never have to commit to a certain number of sessions up front. This is your journey, and we’ll move at the rhythm that feels right for you.
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Sessions are 55 minutes long and via telehealth (secure video or phone). Sessions are spacious and collaborative. I’ll invite you to share what’s been coming up for you—emotionally, mentally, and physically—and we’ll follow what feels alive in the moment. Sometimes that looks like talking through life patterns or recent challenges; other times it might include mindfulness, visualization, or gentle somatic awareness. My role is to help you deepen your relationship with yourself and your body’s wisdom.
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Yes. Ambivalence, uncertainty, and confusion are all welcome in my practice. We’ll take the time to listen to your fears, desires, and discomforts.
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It makes a lot of sense to worry about being judged, especially if you’ve had past experiences where therapists or providers reacted with confusion, moralizing, or subtle shaming when you shared about kink or non‑monogamy. My practice is explicitly sex‑positive, kink‑affirming, and poly/ENM‑affirming, which means I see your desires and relationship structures as valid, not something to “fix” or pathologize, and yes, I regularly work with people navigating kink, BDSM, polyamory, relationship anarchy, and other forms of ethical non‑monogamy, often at the intersections of queer, trans, neurodivergent, and culturally specific identities; in our work together, I’ll be curious about what your practices and relationships mean to you—your values, limits, pleasures, and boundaries—while always centering consent, safety, power, and care so we’re honoring both your autonomy and your wellbeing.
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You can schedule a free 15-minute consultation directly through my website. This is a chance for us to connect, see if we’re a good fit, and answer any initial questions you might have. There’s no pressure to commit; it’s just a space to get a sense of what working together could feel like.
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I’m an out-of-network provider, which means clients pay directly and can request reimbursement from their insurance if they have out-of-network benefits.
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I have both weekly and bi-weekly spots available. Feel free to ask about this during your consultation.
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I Have A No Cancellation Policy
Once an appointment is scheduled, it is final and non-cancellable, with no refunds or rescheduling for missed sessions.
However, I offer one "freebie" per year for unannounced cancellations due to unforeseen circumstances. Beyond that, any breaks or time off must be discussed and agreed upon in advance.
Please note, there may also be times when I will take time off for holidays or personal reasons, and I will always give notice when this occurs. Thank you for your understanding and commitment to your mental health journey.description
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As an artist and therapist, I see creativity as a powerful tool for healing and transformation. We might use creative visualization, journaling, storytelling, ritual, or symbolic imagery to help you express what words can’t. You don’t need to consider yourself an artist; you just need to be open to imagination as a form of wisdom.
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Yes — if that’s something that resonates with you. Many of my clients come from diverse spiritual paths, including earth-based, ancestral, witchy, or mystical traditions. Together, we can weave in ritual, energy work, or intuitive practices when they feel supportive.
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You are absolutely welcome here. My approach is never about pushing any belief system. Whether you’re atheist, agnostic, or simply not interested in spirituality, therapy with me can remain entirely grounded and practical. The core of our work is curiosity, self-understanding, and growth — not dogma. You get to decide how we shape the space.
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I bring together psychology, art, and spirituality to support the whole self — body, mind, and soul. My background as a licensed psychotherapist, artist, and witch allows me to bridge evidence-based therapy with ritual, imagination, and embodied wisdom. This isn’t one-size-fits-all therapy; it’s a space for profound transformation that honors who you truly are.
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