What to Do If You’ve Been Denied Gender-Affirming Care Because You Don’t Fit Into the Binary Gender Cis-Tem
If you’ve been denied gender-affirming care because your identity doesn’t fit the binary mold, you’re not alone—and you’re not the problem. Gender expansive, nonconforming, fluid, and nonbinary folks are often erased by systems that weren’t built for us. As a nonbinary therapist, I offer trauma-informed, affirming support that honors your full, embodied truth. You deserve care that sees all of you.
Burnout in Queer, Polyam, ENM, and Kink Communities
Burnout isn’t just about work—it can quietly erode our relationships, communities, and sense of self, especially for queer, neurodivergent, polyamorous, and kinky folks. This post explores how emotional labor, identity pressure, and communication fatigue play into burnout, and how therapy rooted in somatic, relational, trauma-informed, and parts work approaches can offer powerful pathways to healing. For those of us living expansive lives, rest and care are not luxuries—they're vital spells of reclamation.
Debunking Myths About Neurodivergence and Sensitivity in Polyamory, Kink, and ENM
Navigating polyamory, kink, and ethically non-monogamous (ENM) relationships as a neurodivergent or highly sensitive person can be both empowering and challenging. This article aims to debunk common myths, such as the belief that neurodivergence complicates relationships or that sensory sensitivities restrict participation in kink. Instead, it emphasizes the unique strengths that neurodivergent and highly sensitive individuals contribute to these spaces, including empathy, clarity, and intentionality.
To help individuals thrive authentically in polyamorous, kink, and ENM communities, the piece offers practical tips for fostering self-awareness, encouraging open communication, and creating supportive dynamics.
Why Being a Multi-Passionate Person Is a Strength: Reflections from a Therapist
Growing up, I always heard I should choose one career and stick to it. But that never felt right. I was interested in many things—art, psychology, music, and healing. When I moved to Los Angeles and saw others who embraced multiple passions, I realized I could do the same. Now, as a therapist, I help others embrace their varied interests and live fulfilling lives without limits.
11 Unique Benefits of Virtual Therapy for Highly Sensitive and Neurodiverse Californians
Everyday life can be hard for highly sensitive and neurodiverse individuals in California. From personal experience, I’ve spent an hour and a half on the bus each way, made three transfers, dealt with LA traffic and parking issues, and climbed five flights of stairs to get to my therapist’s office. Some therapy spaces felt warm and welcoming, while others felt uninviting and confusing. For neurodiverse and highly sensitive people living in busy cities like Los Angeles, San Francisco, and San Diego, standard in-person therapy can often seem overwhelming, hard to access, or just not right for us.
Embracing Life as a Highly Sensitive Person: My Journey from Struggle to Superpower
Growing up in a rural Southern California community, I often felt overwhelmed, wondering why life felt so intense for me while others seemed fine. Eventually, I recognized that my sensitivity wasn't a weakness—it was a gift. It helped me connect deeply with others, create meaningful art, and support my clients with true empathy. What felt overwhelming became my greatest strength, and now I fully embrace it. If you're highly sensitive, remember that this can be your superpower too.
An interview with The Gender Doula, Eli Lawliet
"I thought, 'What can I build a foundation on?' and the only answer was transness. So I've been developing an animistic spirituality ever since that finds its roots in transness." - The Gender Doula